You and your love have decided to go through with an elopement. You’ve picked the perfect spot and hired an amazeballs photographer. How to tell your family and friends? What if someone gets hurt? I know that this is one of the biggest questions couples have, when facing a decision to elope.
THIS IS YOUR DAY
This is your day. You’ve made a brave choice to forego a traditional wedding and instead do an elopement. This is a day that you choose to spend with the love of your life, doing amazing things together and celebrating your love for each other. When you think of it like this, I think it’s hard to see how any ones of your closest humans would have any objections. But still – it can be rather stressful telling them never the less. So here are my top tips for how to break the news AND include your family in your elopement:
1. TELL THEM FACE TO FACE (OR VIA A PHONE CALL)
Never underestimate the personal touch. To be able to look them in the eye and tell them what your hearts desire. If you live far away – a phone call (or Skype-call!) can work just as well.
2. TELL THEM WHY
Explain why you’ve chosen to do this, and why you feel it’s the right thing for you! When they see the sparkles in your eyes and hear the tone in your voice, they will know this is the right decision for you. When people get a better understanding about something – they tend to realize it really is quite harmless and often a positive experience!
3. LET THEM HELP
With big things or small – maybe there is something they can help you with to make it a smoother experience? Maybe a ride to the airport or someone to watch over your pets while you’re gone. When people get included, they thrive!
4. LET THEM JOIN YOU
Maybe you actually would like to have some of your family or friends there with you – and that is of course entirely up to you to decide. Just make sure you are only inviting people because you REALLY want them there and that you don’t compromise with the locations on their behalf. Maybe they can join you for the ceremony and then you wander off, together, to spend the rest of the day together? The options are plenty!
5. HAVE A DINNER/PARTY/CELEBRATION
Whether you do it before, or after, a dinner with your chosen family & friends can really be an amazing experience! It does not have to be stiff or boring, rather go for the opposite! An amazing night out with your loved ones on your favourite restaurant? Or a BBQ-party in your backyard. You can show a slideshow with images from your photographer and let everyone experience your day together with you!